The importance of a support network

Because the perinatal period is filled with changes and new experiences, new and expectant parents are likely to need a little extra help and support from their network at this time. Additionally, expectant mothers and new mothers often leave their previous social constructs (work, social groups, sporting teams) and find themselves home on their own with the baby for prolonged periods of time. Physical limitations and a lack of adult company can understandably lead to feelings of isolation.

Although they may sense they need it, many new and expectant parents struggle to ask for help to meet their practical, emotional and social needs. Many do not have family nearby, may not have a close network of friends, or they may feel they cannot ask for or will not receive the help they need.

Seeking support can be difficult for new parents who are used to being independent and self-sufficient, or if they have struggled to accept help from others in the past. Increased isolation during the perinatal period, coupled with the myriads of changes occurring during pregnancy and the birth of a child, can increase a parent’s vulnerability to developing a mental health disorder. It’s important to know that just because someone seeks support does not mean they are not coping or not a good parent.

Parents may feel isolated and on their own, without the resources they need to meet their own needs. Building a support network is an important part of the parenting planning process and can help provide the emotional and physical support needed in the adjustment to parenthood.

The need for social connection and appropriate support during the perinatal period is widely recognised. Maternal health centres usually organise groups for new parents after the birth of their child. These can provide company, local support and shared experiences in the early months of parenthood and beyond.

Online support groups are becoming increasingly popular, with many parents preferring online support due to the convenience. For people experiencing social anxiety or difficulty leaving home, online groups can feel more accessible. They can also improve accessibility for parents living in rural and remote communities.

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How to Build a Support Network

It can be useful for expectant parents to think about a support network before the baby arrives and make a list of contacts that the partner or family can call on to help with support.

What to consider when creating a support network

Ensure the support person is available
Ensure they can listen without being judgemental or dismissive
Include external support services
Include a backup plan if regular support people are not available
Identify any personal barriers to asking for help
If living rural or remote, seek support that is accessible

Types of support for new or expectant parents

Friends nearby who can drop in during the day
Friends or family available for phone or video calls
Other new or expectant parents within existing social group
A midwife, maternal health nurse, lactation consultant or GP
A new parents’ or mothers and babies' group
Online or virtual support groups such as the Gidget Virtual Village

Social media can also provide information and connection for new parents, however, should be used with caution. Many new parents find social media information to be unreliable, and the portrayal of parenting unrealistic, which can lead to feelings of confusion, uncertainty and self-doubt.

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“It may take a village to raise a child, but it also takes a village to support a mother”. (unknown)

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